Christine calls me up and says..."Hey I know this guy. I work with him. He is a little older than you but he is a nice Christian man." I think...great. I am now being set up by my friends. Ok. I ask how much older he is. She says "Oh 50.." And she says it with that linguering. One that insinuates "Around 50...somewhere." I am ok with somewhere close to 50. Or at least this side of it. No. He is almost 60. Yeah... Of course I didn't find this out until today. The day after I spoke with him on the phone.
I received an email from this man. An interesting one. He said that he really enjoyed talking to me on the phone. (I actually didn't say much since he had dominated the conversation) He told me that I sounded so petite and demur. And I seemed like such a happy person. So happy in fact, that I must be a party girl. And since I was a party girl and he had quit drinking, that maybe he was going to have to take it up again. What? I ask you ... What? For one...I am not petite. I am 5'8" complete with a capital T and plenty of A (and my share of side orders to go). Demur? A bit, perhaps. Except when in private and only then if you are a keeper. LOL Happy? I most certainly am. Party girl? I don't even think so. I don't drink for one...and would prefer not to be with someone that may have issues with that. For two..I am not looking for someone to Party with. At least not in the way he made it sound like. I have already said I would go out to lunch with him. And I will because I stand by what I say I will do. But his personality takes me back a bit to say the least.
I called Christine, tonight. And explained how I felt about it all. She basically said that she ..doesn't know what I am so worried about, it isn't like I am going to marry the guy. That I should just have fun with him. "You haven't even gone out with him yet Michelle..." It isn't that I am worried. I am not worried about anything to do with him. But I am concerned about any expectation he may have.
Is it just me? I know age shouldnt' be a factor. And mostly it is not for me unless it sways heavily in one direction or the other. This one sways hard. And it really isnt' just about the age difference.
Just a note. A guy (preferrably within 10 years of my own) with a note in his hand...from God almighty Himself. Yeah...that should do it. Until then...? Where is my Costos Lunas?
Maybe I am wrong in feeling this way. But it just doesn't feel right to me to date someone that is older than my parents.
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A nice Christian man who's going to give up sobriety to party with you? Just how wild were you on the phone? :P Hmm...far be it from me to offer dating advice, lord knows I should be getting it not giving it, but I understand why you might feel a little uneasy.
The age thing would be hard for me to deal with, too, but only because my most serious relationships have always been with guys younger than me. Older guys intimidate me. Dating someone older than my Dad would just be weird. For me.
And who is Costos Lunas?
I hear that "nice Christian man" thing a lot. Just because it is said, doesn't make it so. And I am not so much questioning his level of Faith. I dont know him that well. Lord knows I could certainly make improvements myself. But it makes me wonder a bit.
Costos Lunas is a character from Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. Lena's love from Greece. He doesn't belive in letting the past dictate your present or future. And he was one of those typical Greek God looking types...yeesh. :P
Oh and i wasn't wild on the phone at all. Thus his description of me being petite and demur... It was just that because I was happy, that must have meant I was.
At that age he has to be looking for a wife. I'm still griping with a 18 year age gap. and yes its weird.
I am not sure about the marriage part. I know he said he wanted someone to cook for him and to spend time with. And while I would love to have someone to cook for again and spend time with, it just didn't feel right with the age. Maybe it just depends on the person...I dunno.
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